Thursday, June 3, 2010

"Nice" Girls

It's really starting to bug me, how people always go, "Oh, her? She's soooo nice!" when the person, in fact, is not 'soooo nice.' They've just got the label. And I'd like to share, with you, my thoughts on those girls who are known as 'soooo nice.'
There are two types of nice girls:
Superficially Nice
and
Honestly Nice.
The superficially nice girls always get recognized, while the honestly nice people are really behind the radar (because they don't boast about their niceness).
And, if you don't know the difference, here it is.
If you saw a popular girl picking on a nerdy girl in public, what would you do?
A superficially nice girl would giggle quietly to the popular girl, and say something like "That's so mean!" while still giggling along. This is because they don't want the popular girl to think their mean (Oh! She laughed with my joke! they'll think), but they also don't want the victim girl to think they're mean (Oh! She said "That's so mean!" So she must be on my side! they'll think.)
Now, if an honestly nice girl saw this bullying scene, she'd march right up to the mean girl and yell in her face, until she stops and leaves the victim alone. This demonstrates courage, integrity, and true honesty. Yeah, they'd make a lifelong enemy complete with a bunch of followers-of-the-popular-girl enemies too, but they'd know they did the right thing; the kind thing.
Secondly. If a best friend came crying to you, telling you their boyfriend dumped them, what would you do?
A superficially nice girl would comfort them, saying things like "Oh! Poor you..." but also things like "Maybe it wasn't his fault... Maybe his parents wouldn't let him date... Let's not swear at him because it would be mean." This would comfort the friend... somewhat... but at the same time kind of annoy them (though they wouldn't let it show) that their friend isn't completely taking their side. But, this is useful to the superficially nice girl, because if later that boy asks her about it, she can say that she didn't say anything mean about him.
But! A honestly nice girl would say this to her friend, on impulse:
"Seriously?! What a fucking asshole. He doesn't deserve you, that little bastard."
And that, my friends, is love :) <3
So GIRLS!!! Real, true, nice girls!!! I know how you feel... I know people think you're mean because you tease your friends, make jokes at their expense, and criticize their horrid outfits, but in the end you wouldn't let anyone or anything hurt your close friends, and you'd bitchslap them, and hard, if they tried to.
Stand up for yourself, your friends, and what's right... even if people don't think it's nice.

3 comments:

  1. Its okay to be popular popular people have authority its just that they have to use their power in a positive way. :)

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